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How to change your life 360 degrees
Well, I have decided to enhance my love for writing in a different way. We all loved stories, tales, fairy tales, Panchatantra (Indian fairytales) in our childhood. We grew up hearing them, reading them and imagining them. We knew that they are life lessons. But as we grew up, we faced harsh the reality of life and gave up those life lessons. But do we really need to give up? This question aroused in my mind. I also love stories and my logic says reality is harsh but then what about ethics and morals in our life? Why we follow them? What are ethics? And what are morals? Why our minds hesitate to accept lies we tell to others? Why can’t we accept ourselves? As per the book ‘Alchemist’ by Paolo Coelho, answers to these questions are lies in our childhood. These stories have more impact on us than we admit. We may have had forgotten them but in our subconscious mind they are still alive. That’s why we value ethics and morals in our life so much. We hesitate to accept our lies. Our conscience didn’t like the way we act. It continuously nagged us for our wrong doings. These childhood life lessons are imprinted in our mind much to our dismay. As a common people, we regret some things, incidents in our life. We find it hard to let them go. We find it hard to forgive ourselves. So for this, what we need is to dig a little deeper.
Starting with 90 degree,
Let’s take an example because examples are best way to understand the topic. Let’s say, a man in his 40’s is struggling to handle a midlife crisis aka existential crisis in his life. He came all the way up by doing hard work but now he is confuse. He has everything in his life. He has power, money, a happy family, luxuries of life and what not. But deep down he knew he is not happy. Not happy with the high paid job, he has health issues, his wife and children are ignorant of him, the family may look happy but they have communication problem. So he thought, what was the purpose of his life? One day, out of frustration he decided to take a break. His old reading habit surged up. So he took a book and started to read. The book was about tales he read in his childhood. After reading the entire book he knew where he lacks. What he sacrificed to achieve that unwanted success. He had sacrificed his self love, self respect, satisfaction, righteousness and peace. Then he realized to be a successful person you don’t need to sacrify all these things. But now? Now what? What can he do now? Is there any way to take back everything? No! Time is like a handful of sand, you can’t keep it in your palm. But there is one way! We can’t go back but we can use present time as redemption! The man thought why not to use his remaining time to gain what he lost. Then the man was on a mission, mission to find happiness and satisfaction in his life. He wanted to find peace. But the tales told him unless you are not peaceful inside you’ll never find peace on the outside. To have inner peace, the man started doing things he love side by side with his work. He understands that money and peace both are required to live life. Without money you can to do nothing and without peace you can’t enjoy what money brings. Soon he found his mind was happy with his doings and as soon as his mind found inner peace his environment changed too! The man doesn’t get self actualization or enlightment in his life but he changed his life somewhat 90 degree and found peace too!
How to change life 180°
Now this is a story of a widower. He is in his 50’s. His children are well educated and they are on their way to settle down in their lives. He has a job he loves and there are few years to his retirement. One day, he thought, what after retirement? What will he do?? He also has everything in his life. But what about the remaining time in his hands? He started counting days to his retirement. He asked his former colleagues. They all said they are enjoying their lives after retirement. He thought maybe he’ll also enjoy it. He suddenly thought of his late wife. How lovely she was but their time was limited. She left him so early. He got sad after so many years of her demise. He started to feel lonely. He tried to talk to his children but they were busy in their life. He wanted a companion in his life. He sacrificed everything for his children and never thought about himself but now in his 50’s, he wanted someone’s company. He remembered a story from his childhood about a boy and his dog. It’s not necessary to have a human companion in his life but an animal also will do. He brought a stray puppy into his home. He nurtured him like a baby. After a year the cute puppy turned into a cheerful dog. Now the man is happy. He has someone to listen to his stories, his worries, who love him dearly, who waits for him every day to come home. The man is no longer lonely. He has found his lifelong confidant. The man’s life didn’t change entirely but he had found a cure to his loneliness in his life. He has still doubts and questions about his retirement but he knows he’ll find the solution because someone is with him.
How to change life 270°
This one is about a couple, a retired couple. Their children are settled abroad. They are happy with their life. Everything was perfect in their life. There were struggles but they overcame them. They live in 2 BHK flat in some classy residential area. No regrets are there in their life. But this was their problem. Everything was perfect. Everything was goody goody. They wanted some change. The couple was desperate for some change. The husband and wife got bored of their perfect life. They wanted some spice in it. The privileges started irritating them. They started to fight on small things. One day, they both went to a temple for ‘Pathan’. It’s like telling life lessons and stories of deities by singing and music. They listened and thought about the stories. They both found a way. A way to change their life forever. They started an NGO for all those slum children who live outside their posh area. The beginning was difficult. They wanted to give up. But the couple supported each other. Soon, children started to come to their NGO willingly. The children started to learn and educate their families too. The couple found peace. Peace in the form of educating children. Peace in their heart. The perfect life doesn’t mean a peaceful life. Peace does not always come from having a perfect life or settled life. Doing something for society can also bring peace. The couple wanted change in their life. Their life is now changed.
Completing the loop of 3600
Before assuming anything, let’s make some things clear. The next story is not about any 100 year old guy who lived his life to fullest and waiting for death. But like I told earlier, we are going to complete the loop of changing life fully 360 degree. And just like the Alchemist novel, completing the circle of life! As far as we have seen a man in his 40’s, a widower in his 50’s, a retired couple around of age 60’s or 70’s. How they managed to change their life in some extent. I told you about changing your entire life is not necessary. You can find peace by just upgrading little things in your life. You don’t always have to convert your passion into work but also you don’t have to scarify all things in your life for gaining money. When somebody comes in your life how much they affect you also matter. Perfect life is not a solution but sometimes having perfect life will also leave bland taste in your mouth. Living for someone or helping someone also will give you peace.
So to complete our loop, I am going to tell the 4th and last story of this post. The story is about a boy in his mid- twenties who is a struggler in his life. Actually his life is a tragedy. He was not one of brightest student in the class. He barely passed his school, took some easy course and passed collage, graduated and now is looking for a job. But because of so much competition he is getting rejected. He was devastated and disappointed in his life. There was no mentor, guru in his life. His parents were supportive but no they are also getting old. All his friends got high paid jobs and now working in some fancy multinational corporations. They sympathized him but never helped. Now in the depressing situation, He crushed all his pride and joined a local restaurant as a waiter. Everyone laughed at him, made fun of him but he was happy that he got a paid job. He did all that hard word and swallowed his pride. His parents were not happy. It was insulting to them, they didn’t like his job profile and insisted him to leave the job and look for new one. But he stayed and didn’t leave the job just he got. The fellow waiters had same story as him. Some were educated, some were not but the background was the same. Unemployment. So together, they started a social media groups for all those waiters and those who are doing jobs like them. After taking a risk he and his fellow mates got an idea. The idea was like a bee like too small that anyone could crush it easily. But they believed that bee.
The idea was creating an institute for training of serving people like them. Then what? Then took loan from bank for their start up and execute the idea. Soon the bee got big and the idea fully bloomed. Together they were successful. Now they create educated and righteous servers in their institute. The waiters now also has some dignity in their jobs. The boy was now successful and happy. Not only he because of success but he did something remarkable in his life. The future is unknown but he has confidence to beat any situation. Maybe alone he didn’t find any success in his life but with together with his fellow mates, they uplift an upcoming generation. From a jobless person to a leader, not only he changed his life but he uplifted a generation in the society. How he completed the loop of 360 degree change in his life in is early 30’s.
From above all stories, we all get some messages from life. Individual success is not considered as entire success. Companion doesn’t need to be a human. Perfect life is bland and being a leader means uplifting a generation of society. How these people found peace in their life. How they found their happiness. From a smaller change to a drastic change what matters the most that there is a “Change”.
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